If you succeed in having all your needs met in a manner that is undeviating and constructive, what do you think would happen?
Everyone has a need which could be basic or more personal. Some of your individual needs stare at you in the face, you don’t need to search deep to identify them as you would probably do with your secondary needs.
Experiences such as admiration, control, approval, recognition, attention, respite and independence are examples of unique needs. Of itself and in itself, these types of needs are neither negative nor positive. It is just there as a need.
It is obvious that you have two kinds of need, but it is difficult to differentiate between the two as a result of your ego. For example, the yearning of your ego for the need of recognition is as important as the need for air, and your ego is ready to go to any length to have this need met.
Those unique needs were those you got from unrealized needs during your formative stage – consequently, this is as good as having internal holes that must be a necessity to be filled. Since it appears your ego cannot do without these needs, you may have unconsciously been inputting substantial energy and time towards realizing them without knowing.
Bear in mind that your ego does not really care how these needs would be attained – this can cause you to either use methods that are good for you, methods, which do not appear righteous for you, or both methods in accomplishing your ego needs.
Here’s what I meant, someone whose ego is yearning for attention may decide to accomplish it constructively by choosing to entertain people to be on the limelight regularly. Alternatively, another person may use the destructive method of drinking to stupor and creating a scene as a result – this is also attention accomplishment.
Ponder on your unique needs – specifically three of them. Then, outline various ways (at least two) that you have adopted in trying to get those needs met using both constructive and destructive methods.